Emily’s guest, Christy
Rutherford helps highly successful women design their lives with
clarity. In other words, she helps high achieving women who 1) are
confused about what they want to do next, 2) are brilliant and can
do 10 things really well but need to start with one, and 3) are
burning out and frustrated in their career because they’re
workaholics and high achievers. Furthermore, many women in
leadership are silently suffering in their success. Christy knows
what these women are feeling because she was there and it almost
High achieving women know they
have untapped potential within them and Christy helps them get
clear on where they want to be. Furthermore, she helps them tap
into their potential and live a life of success and fulfillment.
Christy is a globally recognized leader. She assists women in
leadership to get unstuck, make more money, have more peace, and
enjoy more fulfillment in their personal and professional lives. In
addition, Christy is a keynote speaker and author, publishing five
#1 best-selling books on Amazon in eight months. A Harvard Business
School Alumna, Christy is also a certified Executive Leadership
Coach from Georgetown University and has been featured in Forbes
First, Christy shares her background and why
she has a passion for helping high achieving women design their
lives with clarity.
Christy says most women in leadership are
silently suffering in their success.
Christy used to be one of these high achieving women so she knows
how they feel.
don’t have to self destruct. Furthermore, they can design their
lives with clarity.
Christy explains that she became the person she needed 7 years
Chrisy explains how the Georgetown Coaching Program allowed her to
find her authentic self.
other words, Christy realized that life made her someone completely
different and Christy didn’t like person in mirror.
Christy’s body was shutting down. She had 17
Christy says she had a bad boss; however, she
realizes her forrest was on fire before her boss showed up. And he
just threw lighter fluid on her fire.
that, Christy explains why it was hard for her to find someone to
talk to about what she was feeling.
other words: “People don’t allow their super heroes to be
Christy got caught in the superwoman mode and
men didn’t understand what Christy was going
had 13 mentors but still didn’t feel heard.
other words, they only saw the superwoman and they didn’t hear the
Christy knew she was dying. She was sick need
to leave her job but people cared more about the organization than
Christy now realizes she was seeking validation
and confirmation from others when she knew what she needed to do in
other words, she felt she was being held hostage to a life that had
a lot of pain for her.
Christy tells us “You know when its time - your body and mind
Christy says when she shares her story, a lot
of women say - “you’re talking about me”.
the time we throw up the white flag we’re already downing. Also,
women don’t want to seem weak and whiny. There’s lots of guilt when
you have the success other people want and you’re
Christy’s goal is to inspire people to change
before life makes them change.
high achieving women, the first thing that goes is taking care of
Christy knew she needed to change but she
wasn’t ready. In other words, she knew what she wanted to do but
didn’t to it until life made her.
coach, Christy provides accountability. She expects results from
Christy tells Emily that many times she
requires her clients to do nothing for 2 weeks.
she explains what this means, since Emily says she, like most high
achieving women, doesn’t know how to do nothing.
Christy explains that every super hero has an alter ego because you
can’t be a super hero all the time. No one gives us permission to
be Clark Kent and take our cape off for a day.
Overachieving women are addicted to doing.
First, Christy helps them get their mind and health
that, Emily and Christy talk about leadership. Leadership is
Christy says everyone has this polished image
about what being a leader is - that’s a lie!
many high achieving women leaders never stop to smell the
Christy never stopped to reflect upon her
Furthermore, Christy observes that women don’t
feel successful regardless of awards etc. We collect roses along
way and we need to look at the flower field that’s behind us. Thats
how you can settle into “I’m worthy”.
Emily shares her observations on why she finds it hard to reflect
upon her accomplishments.
Christy explains that typically every challenge we have is rooted
in childhood situation and can explain why we never feel
successful. Furthermore, if we solve that first, it unravels and
rewrites script of our life.
it doesn’t mater if make $1B, we can still never feel
Christy shares her childhood story and reflects upon how her
childhood impacted her career.
other words, why Christy felt she had to prove others wrong and how
she almost killed herself trying to do it.
Christy then explains the challenges of being
one of the few female black officers in the Coast
she reveals how she spent her whole life chasing validation from
people who would never give it to her.
Finally, she explored how she got there. She
was working 80 hours a week, she was single, she sacrificed so much
to prove others wrong, and she was devastated.
other words, she gave away her ability to validate
she realized others were never supposed to validate
that, Christy explains her Georgetown Coaching experience and how
she discovered the military Christy and the Christy
get lost in life - work and home self and its not ok. In other
words, we need to be able to function as the one self.
Christy and Emily discuss the impact of the
coronavirus and that fact that self isolation is painful for high
that, Christy shares she read a book by Napoleon Hill that
encouraged her to see herself as she truly is - not her work
was then that she looked in mirror and said “I hate
explains now high achieving women neglect relationships,
friendships, self care, all in the pursuit of what’s next and we
never stop and slow down and look to see what’s behind. This is
because we’re always going towards that next thing.
made Christy stop and she saw the carnage.
Christy shares two tips for high achieving
IT and tell yourself the truth. Christy didn’t even know who she
was anymore. Own your present reality, own the broken parts of
yourself. It’s easy to say its someone else’s fault - OWN
Figure out how you became this way and how to
get it back. Christy says ask “Who has my marbles?” We were born
with 100 and have 2 left! Do the work it takes to get them
Christy talks about the books she has written and those she has yet
that, Christy explains how she finally decided to leave her job.
First, she visualized her life after retirement. Then, she wrote
down and said it outloud. As a result, the law of attraction
produced a boss which created the optimum situation for her to
Christy forgave everyone in her story and that
set her free.
other words, she’s not holding onto resentment because blaming
others doesn’t allow us to move forward
Christy helps her clients get clear on what
matters and set priorities.
didn’t have a clear vision and her time, energy, and money
priorities weren’t clear.
Christy shares a transformation one of her high
achieving woman clients experienced and how she saw herself in that
that, Emily shares some of her story and why she retired from a
very successful career at age 56.
Furthermore, Emily was silently suffering and
now she’s doing what she wants to do.
Finally, Christy’s goal is to help those those
suffering realize that, at end of day its not your job - its YOU!!!
You are the problem.
Christy talks about her Vision Finder Master
Class. Take that class and walk through a process to find your
wait to see what happens. Be in charge of your life and make time
for strategy, clarity, healing, self love. Get where you want to
Finally Christy encourages us to own where we
are. To take responsibility for where we are and then pivot. She
asks “what is success and money without fulfillment?”
This show currently highlights how to create a life you LOVE living - NOW! The first 3 seasons are focused on facing adversity and moving forward. Many guests still discuss adversities they've faced and how they've turned their pain into passion and created a life they absolutely love living. Let's move #OnwardTogether!