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Jun 24, 2019

Emily Harman, host of Onward Podcast, interviews Adrienne Somerville, U.S. Navy civil servant, President and Founder of Carolyn E. Parker Foundation, Founder of Adrienne Somerville Enterprises, College Professor at Florida Institute of Technology, and Author. Adrienne discusses how to prevent your setbacks from becoming your entire story, ways to proceed after a tough relationship, and strategies to become a leader in your own life.  

 

Episode Highlights:

 

  • Emily introduces Adrienne and her accomplishments.
  • How did Emily and Adrienne meet?
  • Adrienne discusses how her marriage became difficult.  
  • In hindsight, why does Adrienne think she began to feel resentment in her marriage?
  • What do you do when you feel you’ve loved really hard but it is time to walk away?
  • Should a couple that is growing apart stay together for the children?
  • How will Adrienne’s future relationships be impacted?
  • You have to be happy when you enter into a relationship.
  • What advice would Adrienne give to her younger self?
  • How would Adrienne’s future partner need to participate in her life?
  • Be accountable for your decisions.
  • Adrienne discusses her experiences at a recent Harvard course.
  • How do the stories we tell ourselves affect our lives?  
  • Sometimes one has to compartmentalize pain in order to show up for responsibilities yet it is important to allow yourself to feel the pain later.
  • What is the importance of having a mentor?
  • Your setbacks are your setups for success.  
  • Why did Adrienne start the Carolyn E. Parker Foundation?
  • Don’t let your setbacks be your story.  

 

3 Key Points:

  1. When you can’t communicate with your partner about anything and there is no respect, the relationship may be over.
  2. You can be lonely in a relationship. Happiness has to come from within.
  3. Don’t own anything in your life that is not yours to own.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

  • “I took charge of things. I like to plan things. I like to plan your events, your family vacations, your kids schedules and all of that, and then at some point you wonder, well, ‘Who is planning for you?’” – Adrienne Somerville
  • “We look for someone to be there, and when they are not there, we become resentful, even though we’ve enabled it.” – Adrienne Somerville
  • “I am in charge of my life and the future from this point forward.” – Adrienne Somerville

 

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