May 10, 2021
Aisya Carroll is the CEO of Survivor Not By Chance
LLC and author of the book,
The Pressures of Becoming a Diamond.
Furthermore, Aisya is a certified life coach, motivational speaker,
mentor, advocate for childhood trauma, and consultant. Also, she
mentors teenagers and young adults and creates programs for young
children to help them cope with trauma. In this interview, Aisya is
transparent and shares how she uses her own traumatic experiences
as a tool to help others heal. Also, she shares her challenging
life experiences with homelessness, neglect, abuse and abandonment.
Finally, Aisya shares how she escaped the stereotypical "static"
- First, Aiysa explains that she tells her story
because she doesn’t want others to feel alone.
- Telling her story lets people know that they can
make it too.
- Next, Aisya explains her upbringing.
- Her mom had Aisya when she was 16 and dropped out
of high school.
- Her mom would always tell Aisya, “I don't
understand why your father denies you - because he knows what he
- When Aisya was 30 she had a conversation with her
mom and asked her about her biological father.
- Then Aisya's mom told her the story of how she was
- At that moment Aisya had a whole new respect and
appreciation for her mother.
- Next Aisya talks about being homeless, having no
electricity, and no food.
- Aisya could tell her mom was wounded and held some
- Initially Aisya blamed her mother.
- However, once she became an adult and had her own
children she softened up.
- Aisya met her father and chooses not to have him in
- Because her mom was addicted to drugs, Aisya was
responsible at a young age.
- Aisya shares what a teacher told her about how she
could get out of the neighborhood. And that stuck with her.
- Also, the reason Aisya made it out of high school
was because of her guidance counselor.
- Her guidance counselor taught Aisya to use her
- When she was in high school, no one knew Aisya was
in foster care.
- One day she was at a friend’s house and her
friend's mom wanted to take her home.
- Furthermore, there were drug dealers on the street
and Aisya’s mom was not home.
- Read Aisya’s
book and see how the story unfolds - in
a way you wouldn't expect.
- Also, Aisya's mom loves the
book and told her daughter to tell her
- Aisya is proud of her mother and her mom has an
amazing relationship with her grandchildren.
- Next, Aisya says she struggled with depression as a
teenager and into early adulthood because she never dealt with the
- Also she witnessed a lot of physical domestic
violence when she was growing up and didn’t realize there could
also be emotional abuse.
- After that, Aisya explains that college life at the
New Jersey Institute of Technology was a culture shock.
- Also, it was emotionally hard for her. At this time
she wasn't talking to her biological mom.
- Consequently, other women stepped into her life and
- Aisya was a mentor to young girls when she was in
high school and college.
- Also, she won a female leadership award in
- Still, she hurt inside and the trauma showed up in
- Aisya started dealing with her trauma, hurt, and
abandonment when she had her children.
- Initially she did not take ownership for her part
in a failed relationships.
- Then she started to see areas she needed to work on
- And, counseling helped her.
- Now, Aisya is a certified life coach.
- Everything started to open up for her once she
started her healing journey.
- And, now she owns who she is.
- Also, she’s grateful she can give of herself
despite her hurt.
- She specializes in helping individuals deal with
- Furthermore, she has her own method that works when
the clients dedicate themselves to the work and the healing
- She also created the Encouraging Young Champions
Program for young students. In this program, she helps children
heal and teaches them how to deal with trauma.
- She can relate to these students in many ways.
- Next, Emily and Aisya talk about feelings and
emotions and how many of us can't name our feelings.
- Then Aisya discusses the mind body connection and
how unresolved trauma impacts the body.
- Finally, Aisya’s book,
The Pressures of Becoming a Diamond,
will change your perspective in regards to your own life and help
you learn how to get through these challenges.