Jan 4, 2021
Onward Podcast guest Patty Bear
grew up among the Plain People (Amish and Mennonites) of
Pennsylvania. Furthermore, she was expected to follow in her
ancestor's footsteps and become a Reformed Mennonite. Instead her
world was upended at young age by an excommunication and shunning
that made national news.
Consequently, this trauma
catapulted her out of an insular world where women were commanded
to obey their husbands, where television, wearing jewelry, voting,
or serving in the military were all forbidden. Yet she followed the
call of her wild soul which led her led her to apply to the U.S.
Air Force Academy and later become an airline pilot.
Patty spent decades dedicated to
the study of defying gravity: escaping conditioning, walking the
transformational journey, and the practice of following the call of
the wild soul. Her second book entitled
Plain to Plane My Mennonite
Childhood, a National Scandal and an Unconventional Soar to
Freedom is set to
publish in Feb 2021
In this interview, host Emily
Harman and her guest, Patty, talk about the journeys that
transformed their lives. Every transformational journey in life is
about something within you blooming. It’s about you becoming more
of who you really are. The Hero's Journey travels through four
distinct stages that represent a quest. And Patty shares these
stages in this interview.
Finally, your transformational
journey always benefits someone else, even though you may never be
aware of your impact.
and Patty talk about their time at a service
graduated from the U.S. Air Force Academy in 1986 and Emily
graduated from the U.S. Naval Academy in 1985.
Patty shares her story and how she ended up attending the U.S. Air
grew up with the Plain
People (Amish and Mennonites) of Pennsylvania.
father was excommunicated and shunned.
- Consequently, he turned on his family and took
his story to the press.
explains "shunning" - an organized form of ostracism.
father wrongly promoted a story that his family was shunning
started seeing the world differently
Patty shares a story of her mother making little bread loaves to
sell at the farmers market.
that point, Patty decided she would be financially independent and
set a new goal for herself.
Country track brought Patty into a new environment and exposed her
to new possibilities.
she decided she would attend college although this was completely
against her culture.
brother advised Patty to take hard math and science
when Patty was in 10th grade her brother talked her into taking
she was a junior in high school, she realized she didn't have the
talent to get an athletic scholarship.
had no money for college and didn't know what she was going to
she met with a Cadet from the Air Force Academy and that decision
changed her life.
did Patty's mom say when she told her she was thinking about
attending the Air Force Academy?
and Patty talk about their decision to attend a Service Academy and
the impact it had on their mothers.
Patty shares that she became a pilot upon graduating from the Air
couldn't fly combat aircraft but she did fly in the combat zone
during the first Gulf War.
Patty became an airline pilot for United once she left the Air
took an early retirement due to COVID.
Patty talks why she wrote her about her upcoming
wanted to explain how one can follow a transformational path
despite challenges and seemingly hopelessness.
when everything is destroyed something comes out of it.
Patty talks about the turning points and synchronicities in her
life and how she moved forward and trusted that doors would
and Patty talk about the importance of taking advantage of
opportunities and creating opportunities for more to happen in your
asks Patty about when to listen to your inner critic.
explains a time when she was faced with a tough decision - job she
didn't want because it required leaving her comfort
taking this job, Emily didn’t listen to her inner
Emily and Patty discuss the difference between a coach and
counselor and why it’s important to have a coach along
that, Patty explains how working with her coach was life
for a long time Patty thought someone else needed to
- However, eventually she took responsibility for
coach was exceptionally kind and helped her out of that dark
Emily talks about how retirement courses never helped her with
figuring out who she really was.
that Patty says so often coaching separates the personal from the
professional and they cant be separated.
describes what living an authentic life means to her.
explains the moment she decided she needed a
Patty’s book is an illustration of what her transformational
journey has been like.
shares why it's important to tell her story.
Patty describes the Hero's Journey and the metamorphosis we go
through many times in life.
she explains what to expect at each stage.
have to own our story and the roles we play in our
when we accept responsibility - that's a key to
reclaim our sense of power.
and Patty talk about "tests" they've encountered along their hero’s
Patty and Emily talk about their life's purpose - their Dharma -
and how they're walking their path.
they talk about how they started paying attention to their
intuition and inner wisdom.
- Patty's friend told her guidance always comes
in advance of need and she gives an example.
yourself “What is change asking of me?”
- Finally, your transformational journey always
benefits someone else, even though you may never be aware of your